These childhood strategies became your compass. They helped you belong, stay safe, feel worthy. And now? They still run the show – especially in moments of stress, parenting or pressure. They leave you drained. And without realizing it, you pass them on – teaching your children the very things you swore you’d protect them from.

And what if, your parents learned the same rules by their parents, who were shaped by war, survival, silence, or sacrifice? That is how patterns are passed on. Not just through what’s said but through what’s felt, avoided, repeated. This is how intergenerational trauma lives on, quietly, invisibly, until someone sees it and chooses differently.